This is a letter to myself from myself:
When we gather together as a church family, you simply talk too much. I realize you have good intentions, that you love the people present, and that you want to glorify God through what you say. Despite this, I need to lovingly tell you that you tend to dominate the conversation. If 25 people are present, you shouldn't be speaking 25% of the time.
God has gifted us all with the ability to edify one another through our speech. If you, the former pastor, talk too much it will intimidate others. You may inadvertently be giving them the message that you know more than they do and should, therefore, get to talk more than others.
You can serve the body through both your speech and your silence. Silence at times spurs others to speak who wouldn't normally do so. Additionally, silence shouts out to the other members that they are needed, too.
You may want to speak by encouraging others to do so. Those who are more reserved may need some verbal encouragement to "get over the hump" of speaking for the first time that day. You may even want to tell them individually that you need to hear from them and value what they have to add to the gathering.
Eric, you don't have to say everything that comes into your head. You don't have all the answers. As the saying goes, "God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason." Simply put, you would benefit from talking less and listening more.
I say this as lovingly as I can: Some of the time you need to shut up already. You will benefit and so will the church as a whole.