Friday, May 29, 2009

"What He Must Be"

Some books are more challenging than others. This one is very challenging.

The reading level is not the issue - it actually isn't difficult at all. The main issue is the challenge Voddie Baucham puts forth about the kind of young men our daughters should be marrying. Based on what Baucham says, I might have trouble finding any man fit to marry my daughters!

In What He Must Be...If He Wants to Marry My Daughter, Voddie Baucham takes a long, hard look at the way men and women come together to be married today. He rightly points out that the current process of dating falls far short of biblical standards. After discussing the problems of today, Baucham describes (with biblical backing) the kind of young men he believes his daughters should be looking for.

Baucham holds a very high standard. When I read what he expects and then thought about myself as a young man, I fell FAR short of the mark. However, this does not mean that I, or more importantly - my daughters, have to settle for someone who does not come close to biblical standards.

Baucham strongly encourages both fathers and mothers to be involved in the selection process of a future spouse for their daughter(s). While he does not advocate arranged marriages in the strict sense, he definitely says that dads and moms should be an active part of deciding who their daughters marry. I find myself agreeing more and more with this line of thought.

This book was also good for me because I have a son. I want him to please God through his life, and one way he can do this is to be a young man who is worth marrying.

Now that Alice and I have completed the book, we have given it to our older daughter Caroline to read. I'm interested to see her reaction. It may be something like, "I might as well get ready for the single life because there are no guys out there like this!"

I'm sure there are some who measure up. I just don't know them.

I'd like to say a big "Thank you" to Voddie Baucham for encouraging us as a family to not settle for what society has fed us about relationships, dating, and marriage.

If you have any impact on the life of a child, I highly encourage you to read this book.

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