I have a great deal of respect for those that set an example in a genuine, unpretentious manner--knowing full well that they are flawed human beings. I think many elders try to appear to be flawless and wind up appearing artificial and disingenuous--even if they're not intentionally trying to be deceptive. It tends to drive people away.
I think it was my friend Alan Knox who once wrote that elders should already be doing what an elder does prior to being recognized as one. In other words, nothing changes after they are seen as an elder. That has stuck with me for a long time.
When elders are part of the body (and don't get paid), they can be real. Once payment begins, the facade goes up.
I hope all is well for you on that side of the world.
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Eric,
That's genius in its simplicity.
I have a great deal of respect for those that set an example in a genuine, unpretentious manner--knowing full well that they are flawed human beings. I think many elders try to appear to be flawless and wind up appearing artificial and disingenuous--even if they're not intentionally trying to be deceptive. It tends to drive people away.
Hi Norm,
I think it was my friend Alan Knox who once wrote that elders should already be doing what an elder does prior to being recognized as one. In other words, nothing changes after they are seen as an elder. That has stuck with me for a long time.
When elders are part of the body (and don't get paid), they can be real. Once payment begins, the facade goes up.
I hope all is well for you on that side of the world.
"Be themselves"...
I agree... but then that always gets me in trouble.
-Alan
Alan,
Maybe part of being an elder is being in trouble.
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